The revamp

             It's been about 3 months since I've last posted. I'm currently on a business trip and will be here for just a couple more months. I'm going to have a lot of free time while I'm here, too much free time.  So I had time to look over my old posts and analyze each one. I've noticed that my structure is very unorganized. So in response to that, I'm creating the ultimate guide for pickup.
            The guide is going to consist of all the ideologies, theories and methods that I've personally found useful. It'll be one giant boiling pot of all the top pickup artists' ideas. I'll give my own personal opinion on the theories at the end of each chapter.
            A lot of the ideas/ methods I've posted on this blog are field tested and have an "X %" success rate. That isn't the issue though, it's the fact that if I need a refresher, I have to go on a scavenger hunt to find a certain post. I'll make my guide available for free on this blog, if I figure out how to make it downloadable. I'm not exactly sure when I'll have it completely finished. My rough estimate would have to be about 2-3 weeks from now.

          

Learning the difference between a black and white situation...

    When I say a black and white situation, I don't mean the races, I mean an actual situation where something is right and something is wrong. I learned through a lot of days and nights of pick up that everything is GRAY in pick up. Why am I saying this? Because there are so many variables, situations, atmospheres, environments, etc... You can go in with the biggest plan but the chances of that scenario actually go planned as rehearsed is one to none. Every guy's style is different, some are naturals which are the lucky few that probably never studied an ounce of pick up their whole life, then those are the guys that studied pickup and applied it, then those are the ones that studied pickup but never actually go out and attempt it.
    My true journey started out when I was a semi-natural, believe me I was no James bond. I just talked to women with because of the simple fact I was the only brother of five sisters. Once I found out that this shit is fucking awesome, I then stumbled upon a few videos which sparked my interest in pickup. That forever changed my perspective.
   The whole point of this post really is just to share my thoughts. Another thought I've been having is what my next job occupation in life is going to be, the one currently im in isn't great and I don't love what I do. I want something a little more unstructured, something where i'm the boss, where I can teach people but also learn about myself and life in general. Im just rambling on and on... But I thought about creating a business about pickup/dating coach. I am in no way ready to assume the position as a dating coach, but as for a pickup coach, I do believe im ready for that position.
   The reason I don't believe I could be a dating coach yet is because I've never really been that great at dating, i'm great at the initial approach, taking her on a couple dates, getting laid, then calling it quits on her. I never really go above and beyond. I've also learned about my self is that I can really get caught up in the moment if the "pussy was good." I've said and done some things that would strongly relate to Ted Mosby from "How I met your mother".

a little change of heart

All my life, I have been a pretentious, under appreciative, spoiled, inconsiderate brat. A recent event had me thinking, thinking extremely hard, I do believe I handled the situation in the most appropriate way. It really opened my eyes to the wonders of actually helping others and being less of a self centered douche. What I've been telling my self lately is :"just be nice, be niceeee, no matter how irritating the situation is, just remain calm, money is just money, family and friends are more important, etc. etc." Lately its been taking a positive impact on my life, not so much on my wallet, but that isn't the most important thing in the world compared to being a great person potentially a great leader. I've been doing a lot of thinking about my future, and I just wanna blow everyone out of the water with all the great things I've been doing. I wanna get my name recognized to create a better for my self and my family. Getting promoted is pretty tough in my position, but not only do I want to get promoted, I want to become a better overall person and be stamped a leader. Better days are definitely on the way....

couldn't have said it any better

"Strength is the product of struggle, you must do what others don't to achieve what others won't."
                                                                             -Henry Rollins

Recap of the weekend...

I thought long and hard about not drinking during the weekend, but by the end of the week, I was so pooped and needed to really loosen up. It was a long rough week, and I felt like I needed to escape reality by drinking. I wasn't piss drunk, I knew when to cut myself off, which I think is a great aspect about myself. Anyways lets begin with Friday.
   So at about 8 pm, I took a nap that was only suppose to last 1 hour, turns out lasting 2 hours because my alarm didn't go off. So this extremely long nap didn't refresh me what so ever. I lost all social momentum that I was building up during the day, at this point I was like, "fuck it I need a drink." Took a taxi over to a club about 15 mins away from my place. I'm not really a fan of the area this club is located in, but I didn't really have much of an option since all of my friends were there. As soon as I got in, I order a couple drinks, scouted the area, danced a bit. I already broke my rule, didn't machine gun the place. There was a good amount of women, totally disregarded that. As the night goes on, I start breaking through and began slowly began creating a steady social momentum. One of my lines for the night was, "do you know how to twerk?" I got a lot of smiles and giggles. I even attempted to perform it on some random girl hah. Me and a buddy went outside to the smoking area, he smokes, I don't. I started a random conversation with a group of beautiful women. My buddy was vibing the  short girl, so I laid my eyes off her. I began talking to the alpha girl of the group, I was fascinated by her tounge piercing. In my head, "I love bad bitches that's my fuckin problem." I was demonstrating value, strong eye contact, and just overall showing I was genuinely having a fun time.
    The girls then decided they wanted to dance, so we followed. I ended up dancing with the tongue pierced girl the whole night damn near. We were dirty dancing the whole night, grinding, whatever its called. We made out a lot, she reached up my shirt, and im retarded. EASILY, EASILYYYY, could've pulled her. I don't know what made me not do it. It couldn't have been the alcohol, I stopped drinking a couple hours before I met her. Anyways, the night grew old, ended up getting her number. Not satisfied with just her number, nor the interaction, but I can use these as reference experiences for the future.
    A couple things I noticed over the weekend that I just noticed were:
Isolation: I didn't isolate the women I talked to/made out with. Isolation is key, it creates a focus between just you and your girl
Time restraint: I did not once use a time restraint on any women. A simple time restraint that I usually used was, "hey lets talk for two minutes then I gotta get back to my friends"
Kino escalation: "My escalation was pretty bad, I had several opportunities besides the polish girl aka tongue girl. Several times.
   Overall I would rate this weekend on a scale from 1-10 a 6 for pick up, 8 for fun, 8 for pickup references.

how i feel when ever i walk into a club with my buddies...

how to get over your ex

Depending how big your game is, big or small. However long your relationship is, long or short. How deep your love was, amazing or bland. All these variables can cause you to either lengthen or shorten your period of recovery to getting over an ex. The one simple solution that'll work 95% of the time is to go out and start fucking multiple girls. Once you get up to about 12 then you'll hit the, "whose that again, her name sounds familiar." NOTHING is impossible, get over her, you can do so much better player.

The basics for a night out

Day game and night game are two totally different types of terrain. Day game is usually a lot long, more conversing, more time consuming, more, more more more more more. As for night game, it can be short and sweet or long as hell. In order to dictate your night, it all depends on YOU and building your social momentum. I learned a while back from a really good group of PUA's on how to set up your night for success.

-Open all: As soon as you see a girl/people/whomever in sight, open up. This is the initial start to your night, this is going to be the foundation for your night. This is going to be hard at first because maybe you've had a shit day, or your just not in a social mood. This is also called machine gunning, your opening up to every set in your way, one after another.

-Minimize time between interactions: You want to constantly keep approaching to build up your social momentum. So meeting all sorts of people will help build that.

-Don't judge yourself: Your building up that social momentum, ofcourse your gonna say weird things or get blown out. This is important because if you begin to have negative thoughts then you'll begin to get discouraged.

-Have fun: This cannot be stressed enough. Have fun in every interaction. If your having fun, then people around you will sense you having fun, then they'll feed off your fun which will build your social status.

-Keep it short and sweet early, burn it to the ground late: Just like what it says in the first part, short and sweet interaction. By burning it to the ground late, at this point you should be in your god mode and should be peaking your social momentum.

-Keep building on every interaction: This is for the same night and can be used as reference experience in later pickups.

Then once your on your roll, this is where you begin to choose which girl your taking home with you. Now this doesn't work all the time, every night varies. You could always find that girl that is awesome and will come with you just a couple hours into your night. You could end up only doing half the steps. You could already have social momentum built up and already peaking by the time you go out. You may not be having fun right away, just ease your self into it.

keep on swimin'

Shit tests are what can either break you or give you more reference points on how to overcome a certain situation. A shit test is basically when a girl is testing you when you do the initial approach. During this shit test a girl is try to find out what kind of man you are, if your worthy of vagina, are you a chump, are you an average joe, etc. While this is occurring you must show how much of a boss you are. Display your dominance.
   If you happen to fail the shit test, its NOT a fail, its a reference point. A reference point is something that is learned due to previous attempts. Analyze your full interaction and recall what happened and pin point what worked and what didn't work.
  During this whole process, have fun with it. Self amusement is what carries a pua. If you aren't having fun, if your not negging her, then your doing something wrong. Getting laid SHOULD NOT be the only thing on your mind on a night out. A night out, your only thing that should having fun, getting laid is capping off a great night with a great ending. When your watching a good movie, do you skip the entire movie and just fast forward to the climax? NO, you watch the entire thing then enjoy that amazing movie with a great ending.

"Far better is it to dare might things, to win glorious triumph\s, even though checkered by failure... than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much, because they live in a gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat"
                                                     -Theodore Roosevelt

Back, time to go HAM.

So my previous relationship was a fluke. No need to talk about it. Just moving straight on. But I will tell you how I reacted to the ending of this relationship. I was sitting in mcdonalds basically dancing in my seat, a weight was lifted off my shoulders, and my head automatically turned on the gaming mode switch. With that much said we can move on now. Oh and I got a bit of a head start on the break up, made out with a girl last night...

Being out of the game made a pretty big impact on myself, last night it was pretty hard to approach. Maybe since I was still technically in a relationship so that's what could've been holding me back. But tonight, tonight is the night I go ape shit, nothing is holding me back now.

In order to have a successful night along with future endeavors. Here's a list of some of the things that ill need to exert success.

-Unreactiveness: Whatever the situation that's going on around you does not matter, the only thing that matters is the bubble that's holding you and your target.

-Dominance: Create a mindset of dominance, stick with it and don't doubt it.

-Don't be afraid to fuck up: Practice makes perfect, but don't test the water by dipping your toes in to the pool, dive right in

-Step out of your comfort zone: How boring is it to stay in your comfort zone your entire life. THRIVE in the moment

-Building social momentum: Pick up is just like a sport, you need to warm up before you head into the more strenuous part of the activity. That could mean getting blown out by several sets just to get the night/day into a steady pace of social action.

Innocence doesn't last forever....

   It kills me knowing, thats daddy's little girl/boy isnt that good of a kid anymore. They no longer have child hood innocence. They no longer are ignorant. They discover the world will eat them, beat them down, and bring them to their knees if they allow the world to... Its up to them to stay strong, and if they begin to break, they then need to express how they feel to someone they trust. And if you have no one to trust... well then your doing something wrong, your not taking a risk and letting people into your life, but also you could just be letting the wrong people into your life. Its all about you deeming if the person that you call your "friend" is trustworthy. Life is what you make of it. You could either go day by day whining about how the day is gonna suck and do this day after day until you take your last breath. Or you can be a dreamer, retain that childhood imagination and ignorance, just be responsible with it... As for me... I want to always be a dreamer. I want to stay as the goofball, beligerent, and ignorant kid. The kid that doesnt mind what people say, because in the end, whose having more fun and enjoying life at the end of the day.... The guy judging the little kid having fun and just enjoying life or the envious and bitter man who regrets everything.

My pictures 99% have nothing to do with the posts. I just like funny pictures, so that whenever I go back and read my blog, I can laugh at them, who doesn't like a good laugh?

lets get weirdddddd....

       I was looking for a damn leather jacket in Peterborough, didn't find one... Well I found a couple but they were in small size. Seems like all the clothes in this country is small -_-. So I left empty handed, sorta. I bought another doner, its a german food, I believe. It has some sort of meat then is wrapped in a pita bread with whatever toppings you want. Theyre not amazing but not too bad in this country. I honestly miss Mexican food probably more than anything right now.
      I watch youtube more than I watch tv/movies/anything combined. One of the channels I've recently gotten into is BFvGF(go check it out instead of me explaining it, lol). Anyways the bf and gf have such a strong trust in each other that I adore. Besides that, the bf rarely goes out but when he does he sometimes gets drunk, and hes one funny ass drunk. I miss those days, seems like the "days of freedom". By no means is my gf tying me down, I just feel like if I went out then i'd just be leaving a mystery in her head of what im doing when I go out. But I know for a fuckin fact I wouldn't do shit with another girl. So heres where trust is gonna have to come into play.
LETS GET FUCK WEIRDDDDDD. :D

time to relaxxxxxxx....

Just got done with one of the biggest tests ill have in my career. I was really aiming for a 95/100 but i did an "ok" just and got an 87. its not the biggest deal in the world to anyone but i feel like i could've done better. but anyways i only studied for  like a day and a half, i had months to study for it. so not too shabby for a guy that studied last minute...
       i'd be a fucking liar if i said i wasn't gonna miss my girl when she moves. but thinking about her leaving already is eating away at me. basically delaying the inevitable. its cool though, im learning to appreciate my time with her, and i could see this as a life lesson. appreciate the small amount of time i'll have with people.

Clear to me...

So I went out last night with 2 friends of mine last night and theyre were so many beautiful women, a lot. I'm proud of my self that I stopped any attempt on hitting any girl, its seriously natural reaction. I  had to constantly remind my self of Rachel (gf). So I just relaxed the entire night, it was a pretty shitty night though, I drank just a little bit but started to get a headache. It may be because of the supplements im taking... Anyways I don't really like alcohol, or the feeling it even gives me any more. I feel like it isn't fun anymore, or maybe because of the people I went out with weren't fun. but anyways im not so much into partying anymore. Although it was fun to watch dudes spit game, and fail, good times.

not so much...

Im not into the game much anymore, actually at all. I don't study it, don't practice it, but I do like watching footage of PUA's at work. I like to see and compare their styles. I'm happily in a relationship right now, and im not one to cheat, so the game isn't really the thing anymore. Im going to pick it back up at one point but for now im just cruising on the relationship boat, its a nice boat btw.
On the other hand I've recently got into weightlighting/bodybuilding. Its a good time occupant. I don't just spend time in the gym and go home and forget everything and eat whatever. I study nutrition, techniques for lifting, different supplements, and cook constantly. Its like a hobby, it takes a lot of dedication and effort. Im currently at 170.6 lbs trying to reach 200 by the end of the year, its a huge leap but I have the right mindset right now to get me to that goal. Im at a slender athletic build right now. Taking about 6 different supplements, you bet your paycheck im drinking a lot of liquids.

Success is the greatest revenge...

I always thought of ways of getting people back for things they've done to me. But I've learned to forgive and forget, let your success show them what your made of...

Im not the jealous type, but damn....

Jealousy usually never gets to me, but it all depends on the person and situation now apparently... I actually really like the girl im with, we just had sex the other night, which was the funniest I've ever heard, but that's a whole different post alone. Anyways, she sends me a message the day after we had sex, saying if we were just friends or still talking. In my head i'm like whats going down here o_o. so I just reply "yea were still talking, I would assume so, unless somethings up?"
    she said nothing was up but that question got me questioning her question. But I play off the question like it was whatever. so then she leaves me another weird message on facebook, while I was asleep. Ill just copy and paste the fucking thing to make my life easier.

Her:"ermmmm tonights been kinda weird..and even though you don't know about it it still was about you..which sounds weird. I'm really tired..like almost asleep, past my half awake stage. but even if we can't fix our problem i still like you...like you're a really cool guy. and ya know how you said i made you wanna be a better person or something like that? well idk if you've changed or not but i actually became better tonight..like i made smart decisions that i normally wouldn't take. hahaha this is probably not making any sense so I'm gunna go.......(:"

Me:"Well it made sense when you said it just explain the whole situation of what happened"

Her:"so this guy had the house to himself last night and he kept trying to get me to come over but obviously i said no. (thats what made me wonder if we were still talking or what) but then he was trying to get me to come over and just hangout and he said nothing would happen and idk if you're talking to other girls or not but i knew id still feel kinda guilty for going over even if nothing happened. and then my ex called and like he can't get turned on with anyone else so he wanted to have one last time or whatever and i told him no and i said i liked someone and he's like "well nobody has to know" but i could never do that. like even now i feel like i need to tell you the truth and i feel bad even though nothing happened and even if u are talking to other girls too id still feel bad and now I'm jet kinda rambling on...but there was a time that i probably would've gone over to that guys house and i would've made dumb mistakes. id still feel guilty but i woulve gone but now like i wouldn't have gone cause i didn't and I'm rambling on again..."

I was glad she told me, but god that killed me, seeing other dudes trying to hit on her. That made my heart drop, I know she didn't do anything with these geeks, its just the thought of another guy trying to get with her. Pissed me off, but i'm not about to go on a man hunt, LOL.

Kinda makes me think about the Game. guys must really wanna fuck me up, i'm viewing the side of an AFC(average frustrated chump). It fucking sucks how the tables can turn that easily. Fucking hate that feeling, I hate the feeling of me not being able to be there for any girl im with and not being able to protect her. I feel like I just went back to square one. But that mindset can't possibly last long, god I hope not.

I also hate the feeling that the person you really like is about to be gone and be out of your life damn near forever. Shes leaving in a month, I can't do anything about it, but bite my tounge and say goodbye.

Falling for someone is probably the hardest thing someone can go through if theyre is a doomed outcome. Just terrible. I feel like I should cut her off now, but i'm so tired of not being able to finish something that I start. I need to follow this through until the brutal and bitter end...then its time to move on...

the only easy day was yesterday....

on the fence...

im currently in some what of a relationship now, she told me not to put a label on it "bf/gf". Since shes leaving to California in like 2 months. it sucks knowing shes a cool girl and all but I have to get my gaming mindset back on track. its hard to get the mindset back when shes damn near always on my mind. so im just on the fence of how im going to do things for the next 2 months. since technically im not her boyfriend then its just us talking and sex, so friends with benefits? I don't know.
   I'm not one to cheat, im strongly against it but i'm not in a labeled relationship. I feel like it would be wrong to have relations with another girl, but I don't want to lose my gaming momentum/mojo. I want to keep my peak and never fall from it. I feel like if I just hang on the coat tails of this girl then i'd end up regretting it and doing something stupid, like falling for her. It would just be an empty investment, so i'm just gonna try to keep my options open and keep on opening sets. Because i'll have to find her replacement and i'd rather have the replacement up for bat than looking for one after she leaves.
    it's gonna be tough though, like I said before i'm still in that relationship mentality, I gotta cut the crap and get my head out of the relationship ass. I'm not saying I don't want a relationship, i'm saying that this girl is an empty investment, only thing coming out of this which is nice, is sex, but that can only go so far.
    Let the games begin....

when you finally reach it, what next?

So, I've studied the art of pickup for about two years now. What I've never studied is how to keep a relationship going. I've reached the point of pickup that every PUA is looking for (at least a majority of them), the perfect girl. Ofcourse theres some circumstances that goes with this girl but, as a person and not including her past or future, I really like her. but the thing with me is that i'm terrible with relationships, and I am a little afraid that if this girl actually begins to work out that she'll be gone anyways because shes leaving for college. its a fucked up situation and this is a reason falling for someone should be the right person otherwise, well you know how it ends...
ugh shitty. anyways, summary: I like a girl, know pickup better than relationships, shitty feeling aka butterflys.